Perhaps most important of all is that I talk to my daughter all the time about what I'm planning and what to do when that day comes. I routinely tell her where things are, from my burial/funeral plans, how to get money right away, what insurance policies I have, and I check in with her routinely to make sure she remembers.
No one likes to think about their own death, much less imagine the day we won't be here to care for our children, but the day will come. And the thing I want to share most is no matter what your plan is, no matter how simple or complex I hope you will take the time and write an ‘I Love You Letter’ sooner than later. An "I Love You Letter" is essentially an easy-to-read guide to our personal wishes combined with the sort of practical and financial information survivors are too often left scrambling to find. In addition to all the plans and conversation I've written one for her and she will get it when the time comes. And in my case my letter includes encouragement and gratitude for having the best daughter ever!