“Sometimes I feel pretty lonely. I like to drink tea and sometimes tea is meant for sharing.".
First it was early diagnosis and his health then early intervention, then inclusion, proper school settings. Most recently I'm thinking about surviving puberty, community safety, housing and employment related things. Sexuality was on my mind as it related to puberty, inappropriate behaviors and keeping him safe - but not so much in terms of sexuality and relationship building.
I've had mom's mention getting Nick in a sex ed class and I consciously took no action because I thought it was inappropriate, over his head, out of his sphere of interest and understanding. But hearing this man speak was just one more shift, one more bonk on the head, one more reminder of my limited thinking when it comes to seeing Nick as a complete person, in this case a complete man.
This is definitely another example of Nick's future being impacted by my limitations, more than his. Okay, seems a special ed class is in our future. Still feels funny. I've gotta get over it.